Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the Everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can even fathom.
Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.
This phrase, to a single person that WANTS to be married, might be one of the most elusive and frustrating phrases he or she may run into when dealing with their friends moving into a new life stage. It brings JOY for the friend or family member, but may bring thoughts of doubt, insecurity, questions, and frustration to the individual not sharing the sentiment. Perhaps it brings with it sadness and anger…when it’s not you, and it’s something that you want, there are a myriad of feelings that come along with it that are tough to manage. Especially if it’s a friend or family member uttering the phrase. You struggle with your own emotions and to heap on top of that, you deal with the guilt that you SHOULD be feeling only joy and enthusiasm for the person that just got engaged.
I would like to change our way of thinking about this phrase.
Because…I am as single as they come AND….
I AM ENGAGED!!!!
Let me explain!
Many years ago, I was DISENGAGED. I was living a life that only interested me in increments measured by hours with my family or friends. Sure, there were parties, tv shows, and food and drinks that ENGAGED me, but LIFE overall was unengaging. I was a teacher, and while I was very good and enjoyed aspects of the profession, there were elements that did not grasp my imagination, vision for my future, or my hopes for who I was to become in the long run. I wanted to be in a meaningful relationship that could lead to marriage and kids, but that was a difficult road to get onto and seemed to always lead to disappointment. Working in a field that didn’t spark my imagination and then heaping on top of that disappointments of failed dating relationships lead to a disengaged life. I checked out about 80% of what I was doing. Try as I might, my work didn’t drive me to use my creativity or vision, and my dating life wasn’t capturing my heart either. With those two areas of my life “closed down”, lead to a life that was lived waiting for the next small moment of tv, party, or fun time with family to feel like I “had a life”.
So there I was, disengaged, without vision, on auto-pilot, bored, angry, frustrated, and feeling heartless towards my future.
Thankfully, God never left my side. I was always asking for help, and He was always guiding me, helping me open my eyes when the time was right. He was teaching me valuable career skills, relationship tools….I was reading, learning, listening, waiting (although I didn’t know these things were actually happening). God was preparing me, grounding me. He was showing me “guideposts” along the way that I didn’t realize were, actually guideposts towards my future. Because of that, HE LED ME to a NEW PLACE…a place of hope, inspiration, invigoration, motivation, and satisfaction……
NOW…… I AM ENGAGED! I am fully engaged in my life in a way I never knew I could be. God gave me a vision for my career, my path, my future. In each step towards that new place, HE has opened my eyes to more visions, hopes, and dreams.
These days, I find that I have so many ideas about what to do, where to go, and who to do it with I sometimes feel like my head is spinning thinking about it all. It’s overwhelming and exciting. It’s a thrilling place to be…ENGAGED in my own life…letting MYSELF and GOD paint the picture for my future in a way I never was able to see it before.
Are you engaged?
Have you been feeling disengaged? Why do you think that is? Where could you use help and guidance? Keep praying and asking HIM to show you the way, my life is proof positive that HE WILL lead you to a happy, successful, engaged life!